Daily TEA Plan FAQs
If you want more help completing your first Daily TEA Plan, check out the following FAQs.
Question 1. Should I focus on the same TEA every day, for example, “Go for a five-minute walk at lunchtime”?
Answer 1. When you first begin using the TEA Plan process, your number one aim is to achieve a tiny bit of success. So it makes sense to keep focusing on the same TEA until you feel it is a habit, for example, going for a walk at lunchtime becomes part of your normal routine, just like eating lunch.
You can then focus on a new TEA, for example, “Write down a positive reflection at the end of the day.” Taking this one tiny habit at a time approach will make it easier for you to make positive changes in your life.
Question 2. How long does it take to build a new habit?
Answer 2. The answer is not simple, and it is definitely not 21 days! Habits are complex. For example, what you think is one habit might be several interconnected habits. Some habits you want to develop might be easier to build than others. This is because elements of a new habit you want to build might already be embedded in habits you have already developed. Another new habit you want to build might have to be started from scratch.
The simplest rule to apply is that you get good at what you practice. For example, if you practice writing down a positive reflection at the end of the day for the next 30 days, you will start to develop the habit. But if for the subsequent 30 days you check your social media instead of writing down your end-of-day positive reflection, you will develop better social-media-checking habits and unravel the work you’ve done on developing your end-of-day-reflection habit.
Mental conditioning is just like physical conditioning. It you stop training, you lose the gains you have made through practice. As they say, “Use it or lose it!”
I will talk lots more about the habit building process throughout the book, but I hope this is useful insight for the time being.
Question 3. Can I create more than one TEA each day, for example, “Go for a five-minute walk at lunchtime AND write down a positive reflection at the end of the day”?
Answer 3. Yes, go for it. But if you find that you are struggling to do both, just focus on one until it is a habit.
Question 4. What should I do if I’m very good at overthinking and talking myself out of doing what I know I should do?
Answer 4. Just go ahead and do what you think you should do. You will only truly learn what works best for you by trying things out. I call this doing “personal research.”
Question 5. Do I need to be 10/10 every day?
Answer 5. No. I think if you are scoring 7s and 8s you are doing very well!
Don’t overthink the Daily TEA Plan. Just put it into practice and adapt it so that the process works well for you.
Remember, the Daily TEA Plan is only one small tool in a set of tools you will discover in this book. The tools are designed to be used together. For example, when you combine the Daily TEA Plan with the “Future Ambitious Meaningful (FAM) Story” tool (which I will introduce in Chapter 16), both become more powerful.
Nothing in this book is prescriptive. All the tools can be used in a flexible way. You will only learn what works best for you through trial and error.